Today if you see me smiling, it's genuine, but it wasn't always that way. I spent a lot of years putting on that fake smile--you know the one-- pretending you're more than fine, you're great! The truth? Inside, I was most definitely not feeling fine. In fact, I was a little bit of an unhappy mess.
I was emotionally exhausted, overwhelmed, and stuck...but also felt "guilty" for feeling that way because, you know, "things weren't that bad," and #blessed. "What's wrong with you?" I'd ask myself. "Get it together."
It turns out, there wasn't anything "wrong" with me back then. But I was (and am) "emotionally sensitive." (Nowadays we use the term "empath.") I feel things deeply and have a tendency to absorb others' emotions. From an early age, I naturally took on the role of emotional caretaker in my relationships, and was a people-pleaser. I was so focused on meeting everyone else's needs, that I ignored my own.
I didn't know how to set boundaries without feeling guilty, and didn't know how to honor and communicate my feelings without feeling like a burden or a b****.
(Hell, I didn't even know what
my feelings were!)
I was "nice." Too nice.
And it cost me.
I went through some dark years, and had a lot of healing to do. It definitely wasn't easy. But was it worth it? That would be a
Through my own personal experience, I learned the power of connecting with your authentic self,and the importance of feeling your feelings, setting healthy boundaries, and developing self-compassion.
And it's why I am so passionate about helping other women do the same.
After 25 years of meaningful work as a therapist, watching the transformation that takes place when a woman starts to feel more empowered, I decided it was time to shake things up a bit and take my clinical expertise into the coaching world.
I wanted to do MORE of what I loved, and reach MORE women in MORE ways.
I just wanted more! Can you relate??
Today, I'm all about helping high functioning women embrace self-care and
self-compassion in order to transform their lives.
If *YOU* have had enough of the "faking it that you're more than fine, you're great!" then please reach out!